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The process of '''thighing''' (مفاخذة, ''mufākhadhah'' or also transliterated as ''mufa'khathat'') refers to rubbing between the legs as an alternative to sexual intercourse when that is not possible due to age or menstruation.
The process of '''thighing''' (مفاخذة, ''mufākhadhah'') refers to rubbing between the legs<ref>[https://al-maktaba.org/book/1214/432 Mu'jam Lughat Al-Fuqaha', p445]{{Quote||‌المفاخذة: إيلاج الذكر بين فخذي المرأة<BR>
Thighing: Shoving the penis between the thighs of a woman.
}}</ref> as an alternative to sexual intercourse when that is not possible due to age or menstruation.


==Khomeini and the Tahreer al-Waseelah==
Ayatollah Khomeini, the founder of the Islamic republic of Iran, wrote of this practice regarding its practice with pre-pubescent children:
Ayatollah Khomeini, the founder of the Islamic republic of Iran, wrote of this practice regarding its practice with pre-pubescent children:
 
{{Quote|Tahreer al-Waseelah, vol. 2, page 221-222|
{{Quote|Tahreer al-Waseelah, vol. 2, page 221-222 (chapter title and year of publication needed)|
ﻣﺴﺄﻟﺔ 12 : ﻻ ﻳﺠﻮﺯ ﻭﻁﺀ ﺍﻟﺰﻭﺟﺔ ﻗﺒﻞ ﺇﻛﻤﺎﻝ ﺗﺴﻊ ﺳﻨﻴﻦ ، ﺩﻭﺍﻣﺎ ﻛﺎﻥ ﺍﻟﻨﻜﺎﺡ ﺃﻭ ﻣﻨﻘﻄﻌﺎ , ﻭ ﺃﻣﺎ ﺳﺎﺋﺮ ﺍﻻﺳﺘﻤﺘﺎﻋﺎﺕ ﻛﺎﻟﻠﻤﺲ ﺑﺸﻬﻮﺓ ﻭ ﺍﻟﻀﻢ ﻭ ﺍﻟﺘﻔﺨﻴﺬ ﻓﻼ ﺑﺄﺱ ﺑﻬﺎ ﺣﺘﻰ ﻓﻰ ﺍﻟﺮﺿﻴﻌﺔ
ﻣﺴﺄﻟﺔ 12 : ﻻ ﻳﺠﻮﺯ ﻭﻁﺀ ﺍﻟﺰﻭﺟﺔ ﻗﺒﻞ ﺇﻛﻤﺎﻝ ﺗﺴﻊ ﺳﻨﻴﻦ ، ﺩﻭﺍﻣﺎ ﻛﺎﻥ ﺍﻟﻨﻜﺎﺡ ﺃﻭ ﻣﻨﻘﻄﻌﺎ , ﻭ ﺃﻣﺎ ﺳﺎﺋﺮ ﺍﻻﺳﺘﻤﺘﺎﻋﺎﺕ ﻛﺎﻟﻠﻤﺲ ﺑﺸﻬﻮﺓ ﻭ ﺍﻟﻀﻢ ﻭ ﺍﻟﺘﻔﺨﻴﺬ ﻓﻼ ﺑﺄﺱ ﺑﻬﺎ ﺣﺘﻰ ﻓﻰ ﺍﻟﺮﺿﻴﻌﺔ


Ruling # 12: It is not permission to have intercourse before (her) being 9 years old, be it in nikah (permanent marriage) or temporary marriage.
Ruling # 12: It is not permission to have intercourse before (her) being 9 years old, be it in nikah (permanent marriage) or temporary marriage. And as for all other pleasures such as lustful touch, embracing, and '''thighing''' (ﺍﻟﺘﻔﺨﻴﺬ), there is no problem in it even with a suckling infant.}}The practice is also attested to and confirmed by Sunni legal sources. Islamweb.net, one of the largest Fatwa sites on the internet that includes more than 250 thousand Fatwas, includes the following Fatwa:{{Quote|حكم مفاخذة الصغار، الشبكة الإسلامية فتوى رقم 77718<BR>
[https://islamweb.net/ar/fatwa/77718/ Islamweb.net Fatwa no.77718]
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السؤال: ما هو حكم مفاخذة الصغار؟


And as for all other pleasures such as lustful touch, embracing, and '''thighing''' (ﺍﻟﺘﻔﺨﻴﺬ), there is no problem in it even with a suckling infant.}}
الإجابة: فإن كان المقصود بالسؤال مفاخذة الرجل زوجته الصغيرة فهذا جائز. وأما إن كان المقصود بالسؤال مفاخذة غير الزوجة فهذا محرم سواءً كان المفاخذ صغيراً أو كبيراً ذكراً أو أنثى
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==Fatwa in August 2000==
Question: What's the ruling on thighing minors?.<BR>
A fatwa issued 8 August 2000 (number 41409 dated 7/5/1421)<ref>23 September 2011 article by Ali Sina of FaithFreedom.org [http://web.archive.org/web/20110930101717/http://www.faithfreedom.org/articles/muhammad-thighied-aish/ archived 30 September 2011]</ref> may have said this:
Answer: If the question refers to the thighing of a minor wife by her man then this is permissible. But if the question refers to the thighing of a non-wife then it's forbidden whether it's the thiging of a minor or an adult, a male or a female.  
}}The following is a Fatwa from the same website archived by Al-Maktabah Al-Shamilah library in 2009. The Fatwa on the site now no longer mentions the kissing and the thiging of a minor. The archived Fatwa says:{{Quote|فتاوى الشبكة الإسلامية، المكتبة الشاملة، ج3 ص8445<BR>
[https://al-maktaba.org/book/27107/72643 The Fatawa of the Islamic web, archived by Al-Maktabah Al-Shamilah library in 2009, vol.3 p.8445]
|{{right|فإنه لا حرج في تقبيل الزوجة ‌الصغيرة بشهوة ‌والمفاخذة ونحو ذلك ولو كانت لا تطيق الجماع، وقد بين العلماء رحمهم الله تعالى أن الأصل جواز استمتاع الرجل بزوجته كيف شاء إذا لم يكن ضرر، وذكروا في ذلك استمناءه بيدها ومداعبتها وتقبيلها وغير ذلك }} <BR>


:The permanent committee for scientific research and religious sanctions has looked onto the request of Abu Abdallah Mohammed Al Shamry which was sent to the committee from the general secretariat of the Committee of Higher  Scholars number 1809 date 3/5/1421. The requester asked the following:
There’s no issue in the sexual kissing, thighing..etc of a minor wife, even if she can't yet endure sexual intercourse. Scholars have stated that the default ruling is that a man can enjoy his wife however he wants as long as no harm is caused. The examples they mentioned for this include masturbating with her hand, fondling, kissing, etc.
::Lately, It has spread on a large scale, especially in weddings, the habit of thighing little boys; what is the ruling of the Quran on this?
}}<br />Another archived fatwa from Islamweb.net that's now deleted from the site:{{Quote|حكم مفاخذة الصغار، فتاوى الشبكة الإسلامية ج13 ص8798 فتوى رقم 77718<BR>
::Especially, that God’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) has thighed Ayesha (may God be pleased with her)
[https://al-maktaba.org/book/27107/72996 The Fatawa of the Islamic web, archived by Al-Maktabah Al-Shamilah library in 2009, vol.13, p.8798, Fatwa no.23672]
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السؤال: أهلي زوجوني من الصغر صغيرة وقد حذروني من الاقتراب منها ماهو حكم الشرع بالنسبة لي مع زوجتي هذه وما هي حدود قضائي للشهوة منها وشكرا لكم؟


:The committee, after studying the request, has ruled the following:
فإذا كانت هذه الفتاة لا تحتمل الوطء لصغرها، فلا يجوز وطؤها لأنه بذلك يضرها، وقد قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم " لا ضرر ولا ضرار " رواه أحمد وصححه الألباني.
::It is not the true guidance of Muslims throughout centuries to resort to the use of these unlawful practices, which were imported to our countries through the immoral videos that are being sent by the infidels and enemies of Islam.
وله أن يباشرها، ويضمها ويقبلها، وينزل بين فخذيها، ويجتنب الدبر لأن الوطء فيه حرام، وفاعله ملعون.
::As for the thighing of the messenger of God to his fiancée Ayesha,
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::she was six years old and he could not engage in sexual intercourse with her because of her young age,
::therefore he used to place his penis between her thighs and rub it lightly.
::In addition, the messenger of God had full control of his penis in contrary to the believers.
::Therefore, it is not permitted to practice thighing, whether in weddings, or at homes, or schools, due to its grave harm.
::And may God curse the infidels who brought these practices to our countries.


This appears to indicate that thighing may have only been allowed for Muhammad due to his superior penis-control, whereas common believers who were not messengers of god had sub-optimal penis control required to thigh preteen girls in a responsible fashion: only god's messenger could thigh girls without causing grave harm.
Question: My family married me to a female minor and they warned me not to touch her. What’s the ruling regarding me and my wife and what are the limits of pleasuring myself with her?


==others==
Answer: If this girl can’t endure sexual intercourse due to her young age, then it’s forbidden to have sex with her because it would harm her. The prophet said: “There is no injury nor return of injury”. The husband can touch her, embrace her, kiss her and ejaculate between her thighs. And he should avoid anal sex because it’s forbidden and the one who does it is cursed. 
The practice is also attested to and confirmed by Sunni legal sources.{{fact}}
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==External links==


==References==
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==See also==
*[[Qur'an, Hadith and Scholars:Aisha#"Thighing" Aisha|"Thighing" Aisha]]
*[[Qur'an, Hadith and Scholars:Sexuality#Muhammad 'thighs' her|Muhammad "thighs" her]]
==External links==
*https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intercrural_sex
*https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intercrural_sex
*[http://web.archive.org/web/20110930101717/http://www.faithfreedom.org/articles/muhammad-thighied-aish/ 30 September 2011 archive of FaithFreedom.Org article]


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