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In Islam, 'iddah or 'iddat (Arabic: العدة; ''period (of waiting)'') is the period a woman must observe after the death of her husband or after a divorce, during which she may not marry another man.<ref name="Esposito2004">{{cite book | editor = John L. Esposito | date = 21 October 2004 | title = The Oxford Dictionary of Islam | publisher = Oxford University Press | pages = 131 | isbn = 978-0-19-975726-8 | oclc = 286438886 | url = https://books.google.com/books?id=E324pQEEQQcC}}</ref> (waiting period) of different kind of women in Islam | In Islam, 'iddah or 'iddat (Arabic: العدة; ''period (of waiting)'') is the period a woman must observe after the death of her husband or after a divorce, during which she may not marry another man.<ref name="Esposito2004">{{cite book | editor = John L. Esposito | date = 21 October 2004 | title = The Oxford Dictionary of Islam | publisher = Oxford University Press | pages = 131 | isbn = 978-0-19-975726-8 | oclc = 286438886 | url = https://books.google.com/books?id=E324pQEEQQcC}}</ref> The 'iddah (waiting period) of different kind of women in Islam varies depending on her status: | ||
*'''A | *'''A widowed woman''': The waiting period is 4 months and 10 days | ||
*'''A pregnant woman''': | *'''A pregnant woman''': The waiting period is up to 9 months (till the birth of the baby) | ||
*'''A divorced woman''': | *'''A divorced woman''': The waiting period is 3 menstrual cycles. (However, Islam critics point out that actually she would not get the attention and love and emotional help from any man for 6 menstrual cycles. The first 3 menstrual cycles are the process of Divorce, in which she could not leave the husband's house, and her husband does not touch her. And after the divorce, again she has to stay in the "waiting period" of 3 more menstrual cycles with many restrictions. She practically has to stay under these strict restrictions for about 6 months). | ||
Muslim Scholars claim that rulings of 'Iddah could neither be abolished, nor could be changed as the rulings of the [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sharia Islamic Sharia] are based upon wisdom, justice and the best interests of the women, and they protect the women against the gender oppression and misogyny, while the man made laws of the modern Western world lead to the sexual exploitation of the women<ref>[https://islamqa.info/en/answers/39286 Islam Question Answer Fatwa Website: Is it correct to think that fatwas may vary according to time and place?] </ref><ref>[https://yaqeeninstitute.org/read/paper/women-in-islamic-law-examining-five-prevalent-myths Women in Islamic Law: Examining Five Prevalent Myths]</ref>. | Muslim Scholars claim that rulings of 'Iddah could neither be abolished, nor could be changed as the rulings of the [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sharia Islamic Sharia] are based upon wisdom, justice and the best interests of the women, and they protect the women against the gender oppression and misogyny, while the man made laws of the modern Western world lead to the sexual exploitation of the women<ref>[https://islamqa.info/en/answers/39286 Islam Question Answer Fatwa Website: Is it correct to think that fatwas may vary according to time and place?] </ref><ref>[https://yaqeeninstitute.org/read/paper/women-in-islamic-law-examining-five-prevalent-myths Women in Islamic Law: Examining Five Prevalent Myths]</ref>. | ||
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Moreover, Islamic critics also criticise Islamic Sharia, while it says that a widow has also to observe 'Iddah, even if <ref>Widow has to observe 'Iddah even if she never saw the husband after the marriage, or even if she is a small child. [https://www.islamweb.net/en/fatwa/145179/the-waiting-period-of-an-old-woman-after-the-death-of-her-husband]</ref>: | Moreover, Islamic critics also criticise Islamic Sharia, while it says that a widow has also to observe 'Iddah, even if <ref>Widow has to observe 'Iddah even if she never saw the husband after the marriage, or even if she is a small child. [https://www.islamweb.net/en/fatwa/145179/the-waiting-period-of-an-old-woman-after-the-death-of-her-husband]</ref>: | ||
*She has never seen | *She has never seen her husband after the marriage. | ||
*Or even if the marriage has not been consummated. | *Or even if the marriage has not been consummated. | ||
*Or even if she is a minor child. | *Or even if she is a minor child. | ||
*Islam critics thus question why should she mourn if she no emotional connection and love for him in her heart? | *Islam critics thus question why should she mourn if she has no emotional connection and love for him in her heart? | ||
*What if the husband was abusive and he tortured her when he was alive, and thus she HATED him? This is cruel to still compel a woman for such a long obligatorily waiting period, with so many restrictions. | *What if the husband was abusive and he tortured her when he was alive, and thus she HATED him? This is cruel to still compel a woman for such a long obligatorily waiting period, with so many restrictions. | ||
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*A wife who hasn't seen her husband for years, should also undergo the sufferings of 'Iddah in case of divorce. But why? There are no chances of her being pregnant. | *A wife who hasn't seen her husband for years, should also undergo the sufferings of 'Iddah in case of divorce. But why? There are no chances of her being pregnant. | ||
*A minor girl (who has not started to menstruate), why then does she also | *A minor girl (who has not started to menstruate), why then does she also has to undergo the waiting period of 3 months in case of divorce, as she couldn't even get pregnant? | ||
*Similarly, an old woman could also not get pregnant, why then | *Similarly, an old woman could also not get pregnant, why does then she also has to undergo the solitary confinement like restrictions of ‘Iddah in case of divorce? | ||
===Islam Advocates: 'Iddah is necessary while a women is emotionally disturbed after the divorce=== | ===Islam Advocates: 'Iddah is necessary while a women is emotionally disturbed after the divorce=== | ||
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Islam critics point out that: | Islam critics point out that: | ||
*Muslim are allowed to drive sexual pleasures from the prisoner virgin girls with ‘penetration’ the same night, without giving them any | *Muslim are allowed to drive sexual pleasures from the prisoner virgin girls with ‘penetration’ the same night, without giving them any 'waiting period' to mourn their dead family members. | ||
*And as far as the prisoner women are concerned, who already have husbands, then penetration in their vaginas is not allowed. But still Muslims are allowed to undress them and to take all kind of sexual pleasures with their naked bodies except for penetration. | *And as far as the prisoner women are concerned, who already have husbands, then penetration in their vaginas is not allowed till they become free of their first menstrual period. But still Muslims are allowed to undress them the same night and to take all kind of other sexual pleasures and sex services with their naked bodies except for penetration. | ||
{{Quote|1=[http://web.archive.org/save/http://library.islamweb.net/newlibrary/display_book.php?idfrom=4080&idto=4081&bk_no=52&ID=1404&idfrom=4523&idto=5022&bookid=18&startno=425 Imam Ibn Hajar al-Asqallani, in his book Fath-ul-Bari]|2=وقال عطاء لا بأس أن يصيب من جاريته الحامل ما دون الفرج | {{Quote|1=[http://web.archive.org/save/http://library.islamweb.net/newlibrary/display_book.php?idfrom=4080&idto=4081&bk_no=52&ID=1404&idfrom=4523&idto=5022&bookid=18&startno=425 Imam Ibn Hajar al-Asqallani, in his book Fath-ul-Bari]|2=وقال عطاء لا بأس أن يصيب من جاريته الحامل ما دون الفرج | ||
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Islam critics thus question the double standards here: | Islam critics thus question the double standards here: | ||
* On one side, Islam advocates claim that Muslim | *On one side, Islam advocates claim that a Muslim woman is not allowed to be wed during 3 periods/months long 'Iddah while she is mentally under stress after the divorce. | ||
* But on the other side, they deny any such mental stress for the prisoner women and girls | *But on the other side, they deny any such mental stress for the prisoner women and girls. And what to talk about divorce, but even after killing all the men of their family, Muslim men use them as sex object the same night. They are provided with no 'waiting period' to come out of their mental stress. | ||
Contrary to Islam, the | Contrary to Islam, the Judaism and the Christianity allowed the prisoner women to mourn their relatives for one complete month, during which men were not allowed to take any other sexual services from them. | ||
{{Quote|1=[https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Deuteronomy%2021&version=NIV Bible, Deuteronomy, Chap 21]|2='''Marrying a Captive Woman''' | {{Quote|1=[https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Deuteronomy%2021&version=NIV Bible, Deuteronomy, Chap 21]|2='''Marrying a Captive Woman''' | ||