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Good manners (adab) is a wide-ranging topic in Islam and includes behaviour such as greetings, gracious speech, not backbiting nor insulting, and lowering the gaze towards non-mahrams. It is also | Good manners (adab) is a wide-ranging topic in Islam and includes behaviour such as greetings, gracious speech, not backbiting nor insulting, and lowering the gaze towards non-mahrams. It is also details on how to perform rituals such as wudu (ablution), and some bodily practices mentioned in a hadith such as circumcision and hair trimming. The hadiths in this article are a selection of examples from the six main Sunni hadith collections. Muhammad al-Bukhari, famous for [[Sahih Bukhari|his collection]] of [[Sahih|sahih]] hadiths, also made another collection of hadiths dedicated to the topic of adab, known as [https://sunnah.com/adab Al-Adab Al-Mufrad] (الأدب المفرد). | ||
==Quran== | ==Quran== | ||
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{{Quote|{{Quran|3|134}}|Who spend [in the cause of Allah] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people - and Allah loves the doers of good;}} | {{Quote|{{Quran|3|134}}|Who spend [in the cause of Allah] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people - and Allah loves the doers of good;}} | ||
=== | ===Greetings=== | ||
{{Quote|{{Quran|4|86}}|And when you are greeted with a greeting, greet [in return] with one better than it or [at least] return it [in a like manner]. Indeed, Allah is ever, over all things, an Accountant.}} | |||
{{Quote|{{Quran|51|25}}|When they entered upon him and said, "[We greet you with] peace." He answered, "[And upon you] peace, [you are] a people unknown.}} | {{Quote|{{Quran|51|25}}|When they entered upon him and said, "[We greet you with] peace." He answered, "[And upon you] peace, [you are] a people unknown.}} | ||
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{{Quote|{{Quran|3|159}}|So by mercy from Allah, [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah. Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].}} | {{Quote|{{Quran|3|159}}|So by mercy from Allah, [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah. Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].}} | ||
=== | ===Avoid gossip=== | ||
{{Quote|{{Quran-range|68|10|11}}|And do not obey every worthless habitual swearer [And] scorner, going about with malicious gossip -}} | {{Quote|{{Quran-range|68|10|11}}|And do not obey every worthless habitual swearer [And] scorner, going about with malicious gossip -}} | ||
=== | ===Avoid negative assumptions, spying and backbiting=== | ||
{{Quote|{{Quran|49|12}}|O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.}} | {{Quote|{{Quran|49|12}}|O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.}} | ||
=== | ===Avoid insulting=== | ||
{{Quote|{{Quran|6|108}}|And do not insult those they invoke other than Allah, lest they insult Allah in enmity without knowledge. Thus We have made pleasing to every community their deeds. Then to their Lord is their return, and He will inform them about what they used to do.}} | {{Quote|{{Quran|6|108}}|And do not insult those they invoke other than Allah, lest they insult Allah in enmity without knowledge. Thus We have made pleasing to every community their deeds. Then to their Lord is their return, and He will inform them about what they used to do.}} | ||
{{Quote|{{Quran|49|11}}|O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one's] faith. And whoever does not repent - then it is those who are the wrongdoers.}} | {{Quote|{{Quran|49|11}}|O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one's] faith. And whoever does not repent - then it is those who are the wrongdoers.}} | ||
{{Quote|{{Quran|25|63}}|And the servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth easily, and when the ignorant address them [harshly], they say [words of] peace,}} | |||
===Lowering the gaze and modesty=== | ===Lowering the gaze and modesty=== | ||
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The best of' the deeds or deed is the (observance of) prayer at its proper time and kindness to the parents.}} | The best of' the deeds or deed is the (observance of) prayer at its proper time and kindness to the parents.}} | ||
===Circumcision, trimming the pubic region, nails | ===Kindness and politeness to neighbours=== | ||
{{Quote|{{Bukhari|8|73|43}}|Narrated `Aisha: | |||
The Prophet (ﷺ) said "Gabriel continued to recommend me about treating the neighbors Kindly and politely so much so that I thought he would order me to make them as my heirs.}} | |||
{{Quote|{{Abu Dawud|42|5133}}| Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As: | |||
Mujahid said that Abdullah ibn Amr slaughtered a sheep and said: Have you presented a gift from it to my neighbour, the Jew, for I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say: Gabriel kept on commending the neighbour to me so that I thought he would make an heir?}} | |||
{{Quote|{{Bukhari|8|73|45}}|Narrated Abu Shuraih: | |||
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "By Allah, he does not believe! By Allah, he does not believe! By Allah, he does not believe!" It was said, "Who is that, O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)?" He said, "That person whose neighbor does not feel safe from his evil."}} | |||
===Circumcision, trimming the pubic region, nails, moustache, and armpits=== | |||
{{Quote|{{Muslim|2|495}}|Abu Huraira reported: | {{Quote|{{Muslim|2|495}}|Abu Huraira reported: | ||
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===Gentleness and deliberation=== | ===Gentleness and deliberation=== | ||
{{Quote|{{Abu Dawud|41 | {{Quote|{{Abu Dawud|41|5206}}|Narrated al-Wazi' ibn Zari': | ||
Umm Aban, daughter of al-Wazi' ibn Zari', quoting his grandfather, who was a member of the deputation of AbdulQays, said: When we came to Medina, we raced to be first to dismount and kiss the hand and foot of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ). But al-Mundhir al-Ashajj waited until he came to the bundle of his clothes. He put on his two garments and then he went to the Prophet (ﷺ). He said to him: You have two characteristics which Allah likes: gentleness and deliberation. He asked: Have I acquired them or has Allah has created (them) my nature? He replied: No, Allah has created (them) in your nature. He then said: Praise be to Allah Who has created in my nature two characteristics which Allah and His Apostle like.}} | Umm Aban, daughter of al-Wazi' ibn Zari', quoting his grandfather, who was a member of the deputation of AbdulQays, said: When we came to Medina, we raced to be first to dismount and kiss the hand and foot of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ). But al-Mundhir al-Ashajj waited until he came to the bundle of his clothes. He put on his two garments and then he went to the Prophet (ﷺ). He said to him: You have two characteristics which Allah likes: gentleness and deliberation. He asked: Have I acquired them or has Allah has created (them) my nature? He replied: No, Allah has created (them) in your nature. He then said: Praise be to Allah Who has created in my nature two characteristics which Allah and His Apostle like.}} | ||
===Leniency=== | |||
{{Quote|{{Bukhari|8|73|53}}|Narrated `Aisha: | |||
(the wife of the Prophet) A group of Jews entered upon the Prophet (ﷺ) and said, "As-Samu-Alaikum." (i.e. death be upon you). I understood it and said, "Wa-Alaikum As-Samu wal-la'n. (death and the curse of Allah be Upon you)." Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said "Be calm, O `Aisha! Allah loves that on, should be kind and lenient in all matters." I said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! Haven't you heard what they (the Jews) have said?" Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said "I have (already) said (to them) "And upon you ! "}} | |||
===Humility=== | ===Humility=== | ||
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He who wants to publicise (his deeds), Allah will publicise (his humility), and he who makes a hypocritical display (of his deeds), Allah will make a display of him.}} | He who wants to publicise (his deeds), Allah will publicise (his humility), and he who makes a hypocritical display (of his deeds), Allah will make a display of him.}} | ||
=== | ===Avoid gossip=== | ||
{{Quote|{{Ibn Majah|1|1|347}}|It was narrated that Ibn 'Abbas said: | {{Quote|{{Ibn Majah|1|1|347}}|It was narrated that Ibn 'Abbas said: | ||
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{{Quote|{{Muwatta|56|20}}|Malik related to me from Suhayl ibn Abi Salih from his father from Abu Hurayra that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Allah is pleased with three things from you, and He is angry with three things from you. He is pleased that you worship Him and do not associate anything with Him, and that you take hold of the rope of Allah altogether, and that you give good counsel to the one to whom Allah gives command over you. He is angry with you for gossip, squandering property, and asking too many questions."}} | {{Quote|{{Muwatta|56|20}}|Malik related to me from Suhayl ibn Abi Salih from his father from Abu Hurayra that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Allah is pleased with three things from you, and He is angry with three things from you. He is pleased that you worship Him and do not associate anything with Him, and that you take hold of the rope of Allah altogether, and that you give good counsel to the one to whom Allah gives command over you. He is angry with you for gossip, squandering property, and asking too many questions."}} | ||
=== | ===Avoid glancing at a non-mahram=== | ||
{{Quote|{{Muslim|25|5372}}|Jarir b. 'Abdullah reported: | {{Quote|{{Muslim|25|5372}}|Jarir b. 'Abdullah reported: | ||
I asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) about the sudden glance (that is cast) on the face (of a non-Mahram). He commanded me that I should turn away my eyes.}} | I asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) about the sudden glance (that is cast) on the face (of a non-Mahram). He commanded me that I should turn away my eyes.}} | ||
=== | ===Avoid being two-faced=== | ||
{{Quote|{{Abu Dawud|41 | {{Quote|{{Abu Dawud|41|4855}}|Narrated Ammar: | ||
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: He who is two-faced in this world will have two tongues of fire on the Day of Resurrection.}} | The Prophet (ﷺ) said: He who is two-faced in this world will have two tongues of fire on the Day of Resurrection.}} | ||
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"Indeed among the worst of people to Allah, on the Day of Judgment, is the two faced person."}} | "Indeed among the worst of people to Allah, on the Day of Judgment, is the two faced person."}} | ||
=== | ===Avoid vanity=== | ||
{{Quote|{{Ibn Majah|4|32|3607}}| | {{Quote|{{Ibn Majah|4|32|3607}}| | ||