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 ==Reason for 'iddah of a widow==
-many Islamic du'aah, shaykhs, and ulemaa' argue that the reason for the 4 month and 10 days long 'iddah of a widow is to ''''mourn'''<nowiki/>' the death of the husband.<ref>Reason for 4 months 10 days long Iddah of a widow [https://www.islamweb.net/en/fatwa/88684/rights-of-a-deceased-husband-on-his-wife]</ref> Yet it should be noted that there is no obligation of any “mourning” upon a man if the wife dies. There is a clear  a double standard vis-a-vis the same situation involving a man and a woman.
+many Islamic du'aah, shaykhs, and ulemaa' argue that the reason for the 4 month and 10 days long 'iddah of a widow is to ''''mourn'''<nowiki/>' the death of the husband.<ref>Reason for 4 months 10 days long Iddah of a widow [https://www.islamweb.net/en/fatwa/88684/rights-of-a-deceased-husband-on-his-wife]</ref> Yet it should be noted that there is no obligation of any “mourning” upon a man if the wife dies. There is a clear  a double standard vis-a-vis the same situation involving a man and a woman:
-*Husband is totally free to marry a new wife the same night.
+*Husband is totally free to marry a new wife the same night, without any 'iddah
-*And he is also totally free to have sex with his other wives and dozens of slave girls the same night, and there is no restriction upon him in name of ‘mourning’.
+*A man is is also totally free to have sex with his other wives and dozens of slave girls the same night as his divorce, and there is no restriction upon him in name of "mourning."
-*Only the woman is compelled to ‘mourn’ the death of her husband.
+*The 'iddah is only incumbent upon the woman in case of the death of her husband.
-*Only she is deprived of her natural needs of having love with any partner in the name of ‘mourning’, and only she has to undergo the strickt restrictions of 'Iddah.
-Moreover, Islamic critics also criticise Islamic Sharia, while it says that a widow has also to observe 'Iddah, even if <ref>Widow has to observe 'Iddah even if she never saw the husband after the marriage, or even if she is a small child. [https://www.islamweb.net/en/fatwa/145179/the-waiting-period-of-an-old-woman-after-the-death-of-her-husband]</ref>:
+The 'iddah is even incumbent upon the widow in cases where she has never seen her husband after the marriage, in cases where the marriage has not been consummated, even if she is a minor child,  or even if the marriage was abusive. <ref>Widow has to observe 'Iddah even if she never saw the husband after the marriage, or even if she is a small child. [https://www.islamweb.net/en/fatwa/145179/the-waiting-period-of-an-old-woman-after-the-death-of-her-husband]</ref> As such, feminist critics of the institution of the 'iddah have decried it as misogynist.
-*She has never seen her husband after the marriage.
-*Or even if the marriage has not been consummated.
-*Or even if she is a minor child.
-*Islam critics thus question why should she mourn if she has no emotional connection and love for him in her heart?
-*What if the husband was abusive and he tortured her when he was alive, and thus she HATED him? This is  cruel to still compel a woman for such a long obligatorily waiting period, with so many restrictions.
-Therefore, Islam critics point out that Islam could have left it upon the woman:
-*That she could decide for herself if she loved her deceased husband or not.
-*That she decides herself to mourn his death or not.
-*That she decides how long she wants to mourn, and when she is ready for the new relationship.
-*That she decides if living in her deceased husband’s house is causing her unnecessary mental stress or not.
-*That she decides for herself if she needs the help and love of her parents and family or not by staying with them.
-*Woman is not a “'''Brainless Creature'''”, who is unable to even decide for the matters which are only related to her and her personal life?
 ==Reason for the 'Iddah of a pregnant woman==
 According to the Quran, the waiting period of a pregnant woman is till the birth of a child ([https://quranx.com/65.4 Quran 65:4]).
-And then Muhammad further told the '''Scientific LOGIC''' behind this Quranic order:
+Muhammad in the hadith of Sunan Abu Dawud justifies the practice in this manner:
 {{Quote|{{Abudawud||2158|darussalam}}|The Messenger of Allah said: It is not lawful for a man who believes in Allah and the last day '''to water what another has sown with his water (meaning intercourse with a woman who is pregnant from her previous husband).'''}}
 Islam critics objects that this is a scientific mistake, while: